Get Women by Expressing YOURSELF (Dating Tips) from Rush2go

Get Women by Expressing YOURSELF (Dating Tips)
Women will find you attractive and charismatic when you can let go and have fun being and expressing yourself.

In this article you will discover how to be more confident in expressing yourself with women.

When you feel confident being self-expressed with women, you become an unstoppable force.

When you are able to be self-expressed you are able to express yourself and your ideas, and you are unfazed by doubt, embarrassment or self-consciousness.

In practical terms, self-expression means expressing curiosity, accessing the romantic parts of yourself, and letting them out around women.

It means understanding the risks you must take with women, and taking them.

It means being willing to be the center of attention and the life of the party, not caring what people think about you.

And it means being able to feel automatically connected to everyone.

For most men, all that is a big problem.

The core of that problem is that 99% of us learned to keep our mouths shut and to suppress our self-expression.

Most of us learned during adolescence to not be "real," and not to risk saying anything that might seem "stupid" to women. We learned to hold back and to suppress our thoughts, feelings, opinions, reactions and curiosity, all as a reaction to pressure not to look stupid.

Lack of self-expression falls into two categories:

1. You learned to never listen to your own inner voice, and thus to ignore your inner voice.

You learn to question every thought, feeling, reaction, and utterance. If you grew up learning to "hide out," keep quiet, and not let the real "you" out.

If this is your problem, you now need to learn access your own curiosity and your own truth with women.

When you are able to be curious, and can "speak your own truth," approaching and succeeding with women becomes MUCH easier.

You always have something to ask, or to say, so you're not worried about what to say.

2. The second reaction against looking stupid was to learn to manipulate, lie, and do anything possible to get a woman to sleep with you.

This reaction is another trap. When you feel compelled to manipulate women, you are not able to be self-expressed, either.

The guy who feels compelled to always be "getting" women feels he has to constantly lie to gain approval from women.

He is never able to take the real risks of having people see his real essence. He is more focused on creating a facade than taking the risk of being himself.

Most of the men who are reading this right now fall more into the first category: the shy guy who lacks in the confidence to go after what he wants, and to be able to speak his truth.

The solution lies in coming back to your essence, and learning to take risks in expressing yourself.

Overcoming the rigid constraints of the past is not something you can overcome in the snap of your fingers, but it is something you can overcome over time if you work at it.

Here a few tips to explore and practice:

Most men avoid talking to women they find attractive and/or interesting.

For the next week, experiment with approaching women, opening your mouth, and letting the words come out.

Let it be okay to feel awkward, uncomfortable, and clunky. Trust yourself; trust that what comes out of your mouth will be the right thing.

Remember, it's better to let yourself open your mouth and have the words come out clumsy than not have the guts to say anything.

Many shy men simply go "blank" when approaching women. If this is your case, then practice a few opening questions with women and let it be okay to ask a simple question.

If you practice approaching women, eventually your curiosity will return. Practice your opening questions out loud when you're alone.

You must keep taking risks.

Self-expression is risky. You can get shot down, someone might rain on your parade, or someone might end up being upset with you.

On the other hand, by taking the risks, you open yourself up to great success.

Keep imagining you are jumping off a very high diving-board, or jumping out an airplane and parachuting to the ground.

When you talk to women you never know what will happen. When you take risks with women you enter an unfamiliar world -- let it be okay to be awkward and uncertain.

Trust that if this interaction doesn't go as you planned there will be other women who will show up.

Be at peace with what happens; no matter what happens know that you did your best.

There is fear and there will continue to be fear.

The only guys who experience no fear are guys who are crazy.

To be self-expressed is to see fear and not let it stop you.

Remember, it's all going to be okay, and the more you enter into the fear the quicker it will dissipate.

Self-expression is something that is available to all of us at any time.

The access to self-expression is the willingness to give up certainty, control, and the fear of looking stupid.

When you can let go and have fun being and expressing yourself women will find you attractive and charismatic. When you can give up having to change, protect, defend and manipulating those around you, you will start to experience freedom being yourself and ultimately freedom with women.

This is an invitation for you to take the risks and take the actions necessary to create the life you have always wanted to create. Go for it!